WHY IS MONEY TALK SO TABOO?!?
04-Nov-2020 • 3 min read
Money is supposed to be taboo— people would rather share their sexual escapades than talk about money. WHY?! Let's discuss.
You know that feeling when you’re in an interview & you know the question is coming; “What is your salary expectation?” You dread it. You dread it because more often than not you aren’t sure what your worth is. You’ve always felt uncomfortable discussing it with your friends. It just isn’t something that is talked about.
What about those uncomfortable moments with your housemates when discussing shared expenses. You might be the one frequently replacing the household shared items like toilet paper or cooking oil, but instead of bringing it up, you ignore it. You don’t say anything because it’s an awkward conversation to have with your flatmates.
We’ve all experienced moments like these in one way or another.
Growing up we were taught that talking about money was tacky and even downright rude to discuss amongst friends. Our parents told us never to ask how much someone was earning or how much the things they spent money on cost. We were discouraged from talking about money at every turn.
Yeah sure, there are tons of memes about splashing the cash and being #broke, but these are just surface-level & are only melting the tip of the iceberg. It’s time the money talk taboo was cancelled.
So, we’ve got a few ideas on how we can begin to break down our money talk boundaries, starting with our own lives.
SOUNDS SIMPLE, BUT START TALKING
Start with your closest friends or significant others and find less scary topics to chat about. Ease into these conversations by talking about how much you’ve budgeted for your holiday or what you spent on your latest shopping splurge. It might take time to become comfortable with discussing something like your income, but you’ll get there.
NO JUDGEMENT ZONE
Remember that everyone is on their own financial journey, so keep the conversation nonjudgmental. Check your privileges and motivations first; bear in mind not everyone will see things the way you do.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
It is highly likely that your family and friends feel the same about these conversations. If you have the awkwardness about chatting with your co-worker about salary expectations or asking your partner to split the bill; they probably feel awkward too. They will benefit from these kinds of conversations just as much as you will.
It’s easy to feel alone in our financial situations and it can make us vulnerable or embarrassed to open up or ask for help. But this isn’t doing us any good.
So, next time you’re feeling shame or guilt about wanting to discuss money, remind yourself that you’re simply just not here for that. Don’t let the obsolete taboo leave you feeling unable to speak honestly about money. It’s necessary to help gain perspective, learn how to manage it and get the support you need.